Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Tagged, I'm one of 'em

See the origin of this plague here, and here. I'm not sure who started it first.

Look for your name at the bottom.


1. All right, here are the rules.

2. We have to post these rules before we give you the facts.

3. Players start with eight (8) random facts/habits about themselves.

4. People who are tagged write their own blog about their eight (8) things and post these rules.

5. At the end of your blog, you need to choose eight (8) people to get tagged and list their names. Don’t forget to leave them a comment telling them they’re tagged, and to read your blog.

And adding one of my own,

6. Try not to tag those who have already been tagged.

My Random Facts

1. The stuff (non-people) that I love the most: chocolate, cars, italian food, fishing, the Atonement of Jesus Christ.

2. I do HTML and organic website SEO.

3. I cannot hold down my pinkies with my thumbs (to show the number 3 on my fingers.) I damaged both my thumbs playing football in high school.

4. I love to watch the Food Network and Speed TV.

5. I don't read. I CAN read, I just don't. I much prefer pictures. There is a Mexican restaurant in our town that has most of their menu in pictures. When I get a menu without the pictures, I'm lost.

6. If I could go anywhere in the world for a few years, it would be Brussels - good food, good people, good climate, my favorite chocolate.

7. I love cars. They are perhaps my greatest non-human passion. I am even a car bigot. I refuse to own any car that is Swedish or Korean, a Nissan, or a Dodge/Chrysler/Plymouth, unless it is from the 60's. I would prefer a rear-engine, German, sports car, like a Porsche 911-SC or an old Bug. I used to have a '67 Bug. Sam hated it. I loved it.

8. I have a brief, vivid, childhood memory. When I recounted it to my mother, her eyes grew to the size of saucers and her chin hit the floor. It was the scene of my first birthday.

Now it's your turn: Wife of a gay Mormon, Smurf Yourself, Pinetree, thrasius, and mormon enigma. I don't really know many people out there. I'm a lousy bogger. So I decline to add more.
Copy the rules into your post and follow them. Then tag 8 other people, who, preferably, have not yet been tagged.

Already tagged, many times: Samantha, Calvin, Stephen, Stephalumpagus, Kengo Biddles, Mulan, playasinmar, AttemptingThePath.

Monday, July 09, 2007

Corrections and Lessons

First the corrections. It's Jason, not Joshua. Sorry, Jared, I mean Jerry. Sam says I am a lousy blogger. No correction there. I just don't have time to keep up. And my favorite writers don't write often enough, like Pinetree, Smurf, and Tito. There are others that I have met, and love, but I don't know where their blogs are, and I just can't keep all the names straight. Perhaps if I had more time to spend online...

My local Mohos (in my YSA ward) have not been around. One went home for the Summer, and the other just hasn't been around. One of them and I went to the Dave Matheson fireside a few months ago. I have been thinking a lot about it since then. At first, I think he over simplified things. He seemed to say that if you would just remove the blockages in your life that prevented the natural heterosexual development, you can then become a heterosexual. Hmmmm, ... remove the blockages... We joked about it a bit afterwords. "Yeah, just take your homo laxatives and you'll be all right."

Tito actually helped me to take him more seriously. I have actually thought about a lot since then. Certainly, he couldn't have given us all the complexity in just one brief fireside. On the long drive back home the next day, I talked more about with this guy in my ward. He had been thinking about quite a bit too. He finally admitted that there had been some relationship issues between he and his father as he was growing up - a blockage. He figures that this probably did affect the development of his sexual identity. Interesting.

Obviously there can be many different kinds of blockages in the life of a child - an absent parent, sexual abuse, mental abuse, conflicting interests of the parents, lack of understanding of life principles, excessive pressure to live a certain way (like living the Gospel), fear of disappointment, etc. As combine this with the info I have gained from Evergreen and other sources, things start to make more sense, and I feel I can understand a little more. I admit that I still have a long way to go, and I am enjoying the ride. I love to learn.

Okay, the previous paragraph may sound weird. But I have witnessed some of our young moho friends who struggle more when there is more stress and strife in their lives, than when there isn't. And I have witnessed many other people who give in to temptation and struggles, even alcoholism, when they are burdened with other problems.

So stress, depression, fatigue, anxiety, and other negative impressions that beat down on a person probably make the SSA worse at times. These are the same things that I have seen that cause others to have problems with pornography, masturbation, and other sexual immorality and chastity issues. These things also cause people to neglect their prayers, scripture study, and meeting attendance. And they diminish one's faith. Interesting.

I know there is a lot more to it. But these are just some of the things I've learned lately. What have you learned?

Tuesday, July 03, 2007

A GREAT Weekend With the Mohos,and straight girls

Sam and I are finishing up a tremendous weekend. We went to Utah and met way cool people, some of whom were also just there for the weekend (or otherwise temporarily.) We met for the first time, in person, Elbow, Jared & Leslie, Drex & Salad, Hybrid, and several others. I got to go to the Matis' FHE for the first time, and had a BALL! We had dinners and lunches with the absolute best company! And be got to spend time with some our favorite friends, like AtP and Tito. There are too many names to mention and I am too old to remember to mention everybody.

I love these experiences because I love to be with great people and I love to learn. I learned more about SSA this weekend. I know this might sound "gay", but it is incredible how much my heart is growing so that I can accommodate more love for these friends of mine. I really wish I was independently wealthy and retired so that we could afford the time to be with them more often.

Another frustration - I don't know to share what (little) understanding I have with the other church leaders. They need to spend time on the queerosphere and with these coolio people. I don't see it happening soon, but maybe sometime... Perhaps I can talk one or two of my fellow bishops into coming to the E.I. conferernce in September. That would be cool, and maybe a sh
ock for them too. Hah!

Got to go eat with the straight relatives now. Not as fun, but they are harbo
ring newly born wild ducklings.